Father’s Day. It’s one of those occasions that means something different for everyone. For some, it’s a chance to shower their dad with appreciation and love—maybe a nice meal, a thoughtful gift, or a family gathering. For others, it’s a time of reflection, quietly acknowledging the role fathers have played in our lives, whether present or absent. It’s a day full of mixed emotions, and that’s okay.
As we grow older, our understanding of fatherhood evolves. When we’re young, dads seem like superheroes—invincible, with all the answers. They fix things, guide us, and make us feel safe. But as we age, we start to see them not just as dads, but as people with their own struggles, dreams, and imperfections. And if we’re lucky, our relationship with them matures, becoming a two-way connection built on respect, appreciation, and sometimes even shared wisdom. But what about those whose fathers are no longer around? Or those whose relationship was strained or distant? Father’s Day can stir up complicated feelings, but it can also be a time to remember the good times, reflect on the lessons learned, and honour the love that remains.
No matter what Father’s Day means to you, it’s a chance to pause. To say thank you, in whatever way feels right. Maybe it’s a phone call or a day spent together. Maybe it’s writing a letter, even if you never send it. Maybe it’s digging out old photos, revisiting memories that make you laugh (or even cry).
But Father’s Day isn’t just about those of us who still have our dads around. It’s a time to honour and remember the fathers we’ve lost. If your dad has passed, Father’s Day can bring a sharp pang of grief. It’s okay to feel that sadness, and it’s okay to miss them. But it’s also a chance to reflect on the memories, the good moments, the lessons they taught you. Remembering them isn’t just about feeling sorrow—it’s about holding onto the love they gave and the impact they had on your life.
Perhaps you take a quiet moment to think of them, or maybe you share stories with family about the quirky things they did, their favourite songs, or the advice they offered. Perhaps it’s lighting a candle, visiting a place they loved, or simply cooking a meal they always enjoyed. Even if they’re not here physically, their memory lives on in you—in the things they taught, the moments you shared, and the love that still lingers.
For some of us, Father’s Day isn’t just about the fathers we know. It’s about the men who have stepped into that fatherly role in our lives—whether as stepdads, grandfathers, uncles, or mentors. These father figures might not have the title, but they’ve offered guidance, love, and support in their own unique way. Sometimes it’s the quiet gestures, the words of wisdom passed down in simple moments, that truly make the biggest impact. And these relationships deserve to be celebrated too.
For those who are fathers themselves, Father’s Day also provides a moment of reflection on what it means to be a parent. It can be overwhelming—balancing all the responsibilities, striving to set the right example, and finding that perfect blend of love and discipline. But even on the tough days, if we’re showing up, doing our best, and loving our children fiercely, we’re doing more than enough. Father’s Day is a reminder to give ourselves credit, to appreciate the role we play, and to take a moment to reflect on the legacy we’re building.
At the end of the day, Father’s Day isn’t about grand gestures or big presents. It’s about connection—whether through a thoughtful message, a simple phone call, or a shared moment of remembrance. It’s about taking time to appreciate the fathers in our lives, whether they’re with us today or forever in our hearts.
How do you feel about Father’s Day? I’d love to hear your thoughts, memories, and how you choose to celebrate or remember.
Take care, stay safe.
Becks Xo
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