There’s something about spring that makes me want to fling open the windows, chuck out half my wardrobe, and pretend I’m in a feel-good film where everything starts anew (with great lighting and better hair). But here’s the thing—when you’re over 40, starting fresh isn’t about reinvention. It’s about returning to yourself.
I don’t know about you, but confidence hasn’t always come easy in this season of life. It’s been unpicked by everything from hormonal havoc to career pivots to the occasional identity wobble in the skincare aisle. And yet, here we are—with more wisdom, more edge, and, dare I say it, more grit than ever.
So if your confidence has taken a bit of a back seat lately, here are a few gentle (and joy-filled) ways to dust it off and bring it back into the sunlight.
1. Let’s Redefine What Confidence Even Is
Forget the glossy magazine version of confidence—it’s not about being the loudest in the room, the youngest on the ‘gram, or the most “together” mum at the school gates.
Confidence now feels more like:
- Wearing what you love, not what’s trending.
- Saying “no” without giving a 10-minute explanation.
- Speaking kindly to yourself when you look in the mirror (especially in leggings).
Confidence over 40? It’s less about proving and more about being.
2. Small Shifts = Big Energy
This spring, I’m not overhauling my life. I’m tweaking it—intentionally.
- Adding a pop of colour to my outfit (pink counts as a neutral, right?).
- Getting outside first thing, even if I only make it to the garden with my coffee.
- Saying yes to things that scare me just a little—but feel exciting too.
You don’t need a total reboot—just a few feel-good nudges in the right direction.
3. Declutter More Than Just Your Wardrobe
Yes, spring cleaning your closet feels amazing (and I will never not advocate for that “one in, one out” rule). But even better? Decluttering your mental space.
Out:
- Outdated beliefs about what women over 40 “should” wear, say, or do.
- Negative self-talk that sounds like a dodgy ex.
- The pressure to be everything to everyone.
In:
- Boundaries, baby.
- Self-respect that doesn’t shrink.
- That quiet knowing that comes from doing the work—on yourself, for yourself.
4. Confidence Is Contagious—Find Your People
This is your reminder that comparison is a thief and community is magic. Surround yourself with women who cheer, not compete. The ones who say, “Go for it!” when you whisper your next big (or small) idea.
And if you don’t have that circle yet? Create it. Start with one conversation, one shared story, one “me too.” You’re never too old to find your people—or to become one for someone else.
Fresh Season, Same You—But Bolder
Here’s the truth: confidence isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about remembering who you are—underneath the noise, the roles, the expectations.
So this spring, start fresh not because you need fixing—but because you deserve flourishing. In whatever way that looks for you.
Take care, stay safe.
Becks Xo
My life and style over 40 