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Honouring Mum: A Mother’s Day Reflection for Grown-Ups

Mother’s Day isn’t just about flowers and breakfast in bed. As we get older, the way we celebrate changes. Some of us are lucky enough to still have our mums with us, while others are remembering and honouring a mum who is no longer here. No matter where we find ourselves, this day is a moment to pause, reflect, and appreciate the woman who shaped us.

For those of us who are fortunate enough to still have our mums in our lives, Mother’s Day is a chance to show love in ways that actually matter to them now. Gone are the days of macaroni necklaces and glittery cards (though let’s be honest, she probably loved those!). Now, it’s about meaningful connection, shared memories, and making the most of the time we have.

Ways to Celebrate Your Mum Today

💬 A Real Conversation – It’s easy to assume we know everything about our mums, but there’s always more to learn. Ask about her childhood, her favourite memories, or even her biggest dreams when she was younger. Let her reminisce—you might be surprised by what she shares.

📞 Time, Not Things – If you don’t live nearby, a long phone call or video chat can mean the world to her. Not just a quick “Happy Mother’s Day,” but a proper, unhurried catch-up.

💌 A Handwritten Letter – In a world of instant messages, a real letter is something she can hold onto. Tell her what you admire about her, a memory that makes you smile, or simply how much you appreciate her.

🎥 A Trip Down Memory Lane – Dig out the old photo albums or home videos, and take a moment to reflect together. If you’re apart, send her a few throwback pictures with a message about why those moments meant so much.

🌿 A Little Pampering – If she’s nearby, take her out for a quiet lunch, a spa day, or just a simple walk together. If she’s far away, send her something thoughtful—a favourite book, a cosy blanket, or something that reminds her you’re thinking of her.

But for many, Mother’s Day carries a different weight. Some of us are remembering a mum who is no longer with us, and this day can be bittersweet.

Honouring a Mum Who’s No Longer Here

💐 Visit Her Favourite Place – Whether it’s a park she loved, a café she always visited, or even just sitting in the garden, spending time in a place that reminds you of her can feel comforting.

🕯️ Light a Candle or Make a Toast – A small but meaningful act. Raise a glass in her honour, say a few words, or simply sit in quiet remembrance.

📖 Write to Her – Just because she’s gone doesn’t mean you can’t still talk to her. Write a letter sharing what’s been happening in your life, what you miss most, or even just a funny story you wish you could tell her.

🎶 Play Her Favourite Song – Music has a way of bringing memories flooding back. Whether it’s a song she always sang in the kitchen or one that reminds you of a special moment, let yourself feel the connection.

💖 Carry On a Tradition – Did she have a special Mother’s Day ritual? Maybe she always baked a certain cake or spent the day in the garden. Honouring that tradition, in your own way, can be a beautiful way to keep her close.

However you spend this day, know that there is no “right” way to do it. Whether your mum is still here or living on in your heart, Mother’s Day is about gratitude—for the love she gave, the lessons she taught, and the impact she had on the person you are today.

To all the mums, past and present, and to everyone carrying their love in their own way—this day is for you. 💕

Take care, stay safe.

Becks Xo